Hi Robert,
Well...I give you credit for tackling it...one of the least fun jobs to take on for these cars.
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1. You are fine...most only loosen the downstanding flange exhaust bracket where it ties to the trans mounts as the exhaust connection to the manifold is spherical. Robert, I would loosen the trans mounts as well as that is where the drive train will fulcrum when you raise the front of the engine.
2. If you push up with a floor jack you can block each side at the engine mounts with wooden shims. You can do this with or without removing the puck mounts themselves....I like it with the mounts removed. The easiest way is with an engine lift up top as you don't need the shims...and don't have to remove the hood since it pivots from the front of the car. As to lifting...if you notice the engine because it is canted or layed over 30 degrees is not symmetric x-car in terms of distance from each mount for equivalent lifting on each side from the centerline of the pan. Using a generous block of wood...I suggest a 2 X 6, bias the wood block to the left side of the pan for more uniform lifting of the engine X-car if pushing up from the bottom.
3. Two approachs really...either disconnect the whole pump and sprocket and drop it in the pan or just unbolt the lower pick up because that is what interferes with the internal pan baffle when trying to push it off with the cross-member in place.
Lastly, to keep your frustration quotient low :-), I would give yourself a generous time window..it is a difficult and messy job particularly on your back without a lift and if you decide to shim the motor up and not elevate it with a cherry picker.
Check around the engine to make sure there aren't any other interfering areas...like hydraulic hoses...AC hose clamp down to the body on the pass side etc.
Good Luck,
George